COMPROMISE

WE ALL HAVE SEEN SHAHRUKH KHAN ADVERTISING FOR DISH TV…..”THODA WISH KARO, DISH KARO” URGING US NOT TO MAKE COMPROMISES WITH THE QUALITY OF PRODUCT AND SERVICES WE GET. HENCE HE CLAIMS HIS ENDORSED PRODUCT TO BE THE BEST AND THUS WE WONT HAVE TO END UO MAKING COMPROMISE…NOW IS THAT POSSIBLE IN INDIA…WE MAKE COMPROMISES EVRY NOW N THEN…FROM MORNING TO NIGHT … EVRYBODY MAKES COMPROMISES…FROM A TODDLER TO AN AGED PERSON…THOUGH THE SHARE OF COMPROMISES VARIES FROM INDIVIDUAL TO INDIVIDUAL…IN NUTSHELL IT IS NOT FEASIBLE IN INDIA “NOT TO MAKE COMPROMISES” IN OTHER WORDS IT SEEMS AS IF INDIA RUNS ON MAKING “COMPROMISES”…

IN INDIA…STARTING FROM THE YOUNGEST RESIDENT---“A TODDLER” WITH A WORKING MOTHER MAKES COMPROMISE ON HIS SHARE OF MOTHER FEED COZ OF WORKING MOTHER. THOUGH THE BIOLOGIST HV GIVEN A NEW TERM TO HIS COMPROMISE “ WEANING” BUT WILL THIS SOCIAL ISSUE UNDER THE GARB OF MEDICAL TERM “WEANING” BE NEGLECTED… OF COURSE NOBODY CAN BE ACCOUNTED FOR TO B THE “SCAPEGOAT”…BT THE MATTER IS STILL NOT OBSOLVED…OR THE INFANT REFUSING TO MAKE ANY COMPROMISE SHOULD THROW TANTRUMS ‘OR’ GOING THE OTHER WAYS ROUND…HE GROWS UP WEANED WHICH RESULTANTLY CAUSES HIS WEAK IMMUNITY N HENCE RESULTS IN DIRE HEALTH CONSEQUENCES …SHOULD SUE HIS MOTHER UNDER ‘RTI’ ??? WHICH WOULD ,OF COURSE, MEAN RIDICULING THE WHOLE SITUATION…SUBSEQUENTLY THE ANSWER IS “COMPROMISE”…THE BEST AND ULTIMATE SOLUTION…

WE SHOULD RATHER BELIEVE THAT IN OUR INDIAN SOCIETY , AS A PART OF NURTURING N GROWING UP, WE ARE THEORETICALLY TAUGHT NOT TO MAKE COMPROMISES BT THE PRACTICALITY STANDS FOR THE CONVERSE. WE MAKE COMPROMISE IN MANY SITUATIONS DAILY… HOSTELERS MAKE COMPROMISES WITH THEIR ROOM-MATES AT TIMES… STUDENTS MAKE COMPROMISES WITH THEIR FACULTY WHEN THE LATCH OF THEIR INTERNALS IS IN THEIR FACULTY’ HANDS…WIVES MAKE COMPROMISES FOR THEIR HUSBANDS N FAMILIES N SAME STANDS TRUE FOR THE HUSBANDS…

THERE IS NO COMPETITION BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN ON ACCOUNT OF MAKING COMPROMISES…INDIANS – BOTH MEN N WOMEN HV THEIR OWN SHARE OF MAKING COMPROMISES. IN SOME PATRIACH FAMILIES, IT IS FEMALES WHO MAKE MORE COMPROMISES -WHICH IS MOSTLY THE CASE… IN OTHER CASES …FAMILIES WITH MORE OF FEMALES , MALES HV TO MAKE COMPROMISES…

INDIANS ARE TAUGHT TO MAKE COMPROMISES WITH QUANTITY , QUALITY , DEMANDS AND THEIR DESIRES…WELL IF SOMEBODY DOESN’T AGREE TO THAT WE MAKE COMPROMISES IN OUR LIVES--- CAN JUST INTROSPECT THEIR OWN LIVES N JUST ANSWER---“ HAVE THEY GOT ALL THEY WANTED IN THEIR LIVES- IN SAME MEASURES N WAYS THEY WANTED???” IF YES THN PERHAPS U R D LUCKIEST ‘OR’ U R LYING TO URSELF…

BACK TO MAKING COMPROMISES…IT IS SAID” TO RUN THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE SUCCESSFULLY, BOTH THE PARTNERS NEED TO LEARN COMPROMISES A ONE OR OTHR PART OF THEIR LIVES” IF OTHERWISE THE RESULTS ARE TWO WHICH VERY EVIDENTLY DEMEAN THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE…

DIVORCE

DOMINANT-RECESSIVE RELATION---WHERE ONE PARTNER HAS TO MAKE ALL COMPROMISES N IS ALSO SIDELINED..

PEOPLE LIVING IN SMALL TOWNS WELL UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF “COMPROMISING WITH QUALITY STANDARDS”…

POVERTY RESULTS IN POOR PEOPLE MAKING COMPROMISES WD “LIVING STANDARDS”…

WE EVEN MAKE COMPROMISES WHEN OPTING FOR OUR CAREERS---“QUOTA SYSTEM”

NOW DON’T THE CANDIDATES HV TO MAKE COMPROMISE FOR THE DESERVD SEAT WHICH BY GRACE OF QUOTA SYSTEM IS HANDED OVR TO CANDIDATE WD QUOTA…WHICH OTHERWISE ACCORDING TO MERIT HE DOESN’T DESERVE D SAME…

WE EVN MAKE COMPROMISE ON THE QUALITY OF OUR POLITICIANS N REPRESENTATIVES

…TRUE BT IT IS…

OUR WHOLE INDIAN SYSTEM RUNS ON COMPROMISES---EVRYBDY MAKES COMPROMISES BT SHARE VARIES. SOME HV TO MAKE COMPROMISES THRU OUT THEIR LIVES N STILL FIND NO RESPITE…N SOME MAKE FEW COMPROMISES N ARE WELL PAID OFF…

ON THAT ACCOUNT, WE EVEN MAKE COMPROMISES WD GOD AS WELL…

“ IF THINGS DONOT HAPPEN HAPPEN IN UR LYF UR WAY, WAIT N WATCH BECAUSE THINGS R HAPPENING IN GO’S WAYS N ARE BEST FOR U” OR

“SOONER OR LATER, U WILL GET D RESULTS FOR UR HARD WORK”

“KARAM KAR , FAL(RESULT) KI ICHCHA(DESIRE OR EXPECTATION) MAT RAKH”

WE DO MAKE COMPROMISES EVRYTYM… EVRY NW N THEN… WE MAY CALL IT COMPROMISING WD THE SITUATION BT THEN ULTIMATELY WE R DOING IS “COMPROMISING”…

IN INDIA “MAKING COMPROMISES” IS LIKE A TRAIT THAT ACTUALLY IS IN OUR GENES …MORE SUBSTANTIALLY RUNS IN OUR BLOOD N IS INHERITED…

MAKING COMPROMISES HS LIKE JUST IT SEEMS AS IF WE HV FORMED A HABIT OF IT ALREADY… BT IS COMPROMISING GOOD N HEALTHY…OR IN OTHER WORDS…DOES “NO COMPROMISES” MEAN “NO PROBLEMS”??? --- IF YES THEN COMPROMISING IS DEFINITELY WDOUT DOUBT IS GOOD ‘N’ IF NO THEN WE SHOULDN’T REALLY KEEP GOING ON WD COMPROMISES IN OUR LIVES…

---ARSHJOT KAUR…